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Advance Funeral Planning

I can help you plan the particular type of funeral you would wish to have.

This is different from the idea of paying for a funeral in advance. Some funeral directors allow you to pay the cost of your funeral in advance. But Advance Funeral Planning is simply discussing and setting out your own thoughts and wishes.

It is a great comfort to a family to know what a loved one would have wished. Your funeral should be a personal celebration of the gift of your life and a consolation to your family and friends.  Advance Funeral Planning will ease the burden on the people who will be arranging your funeral.

What do I charge?
My fee for a Funeral Planning Meeting in Dublin as of 2019 is €100.

Funeral Planning Meeting
I will first meet with you at a time and place that suits you. There we will discuss your circumstances and your ideas in a relaxed way.  Next, we will go on to consider the type of ceremony you would like to have.

Type of Service
Would you like to have a religious service? If so, in what church?  Or, is it is your wish to have an interdenominational or a non-religious ceremony? Then there is the matter of selecting readings, poems or music that have special meaning for you. I can let you select from an extensive choice of readings and music. You will find these suitable for a wide variety of circumstances and situations. And have you any thoughts about singers, instrumentalists, maybe a choir?

Burial or Cremation
Would you wish to have a burial or a cremation and where? Is there a family plot with space available for another burial?  Have you any preferences as regards readings or music at the cemetery or crematorium? And, if your choice is cremation, have you given thought to the question of a final resting place for your ashes?

Practical matters
We will get down to practical matters.  Have you a preferred funeral director?  What type of coffin would you wish to have? Is it your wish to be laid out at home or in a funeral home? We consider whether your removal from there should be to a place of worship overnight. Or would you prefer to be brought directly to a church or crematorium on the day of your funeral? Would you prefer that mourners would make a donation to charity rather than provide flowers? Are your mourners to be invited for a meal and refreshments following the ceremony?

Final words
Have you any final words, advice or message that you would like to record or have written? If so these words could be read or given to your loved ones after your death. Perhaps they might be read at the requiem itself. We will discuss all this and anything else that is on your mind when we meet to work out your plans.

Benefits of Advance Funeral Planning
You will see that Advance Funeral Planning will ease the strain on your family. Your loved ones will have the comfort of knowing your own wishes. All this is very important because, following a death, there is so much to be done by a grieving family in a very short space of time.

Disadvantages of not planning in advance
If you fail to make known your wishes your family will likely spend more than you would have wished if you had made your views known. We all want to do the very best for a deceased family member. Advance Funeral Planning allows you to state your preferences clearly. By thinking about this in advance, your final parting will be designed by you. Your funeral will be a sad occasion. But, even so, if planned properly it will be a treasured memory for your family and your friends.

Thinking Ahead – End of Life Wishes
Apart from the matter of Advance Funeral Planning, it is important to think about, discuss, and record your preferences regarding End of Life issues. The Think Ahead form from the Irish Hospice Foundation will be found to be a great help in ensuring that the people closest to you are aware of your preferences so that, should a time come when you are unable to express them yourself, your wishes will be clear to the people caring for you or managing your affairs.

Don’t forget your will
Do not overlook the very important matter of dealing with your property by leaving an up to date and valid will. I strongly urge that you arrange this through your legal advisor. It is not a task to be left on the long finger. Ease your mind now by knowing that you have left your affairs in order.

“When it’s over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms. 

I don’t want to end up simply having visited this world.” 

― Mary Oliver

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